Trust your Instinct

How many times have you had a great idea, only to see someone else reap fame and fortune with your idea? This recently happened to me, and its a painful reminder of how important it is to take action. I had this idea for a book that blended working out with picking up chicks, since a lot of guy who are into ‘pick up’ are skinny and nerdy.  Here is the book that I wrote, but didn’t publish…and now this guy is laughing all the way to bank, while I reap no rewards.  I’m not saying he copied me, but if I trusted my instinct and took action, I would be earning royalties right now.

Its easy to discount your ideas, simply because they’re your ideas.  It is also easy to assume other people are smarter or more capable in some way and therefore its possible to see them succeeding, but not you.  Why not have success, fame, and money? The act of sitting on your ass watching other people live their dream is spectator-ism, and its a shitty way to go through life.

The point I want to stress is trusting your instinct.  Trusting the voice inside that tells you the perfect thing to do.  It’s when you don’t listen to your instinct that you fuck things up.  Everyone has a story or experience of not listening to their gut and then regretting it later.  This is definitely true when it comes to dealing with women.  Unfortunately, I can think of several times my instinct said to go for it, and my mind came up with excuses or arguments.  Then I would find out a year later that the girl I talked myself out of, was into me.  I knew it internally all the time…I just didn’t trust that instinct.

Another example is talking to strangers.  A lot of times, I will get a feeling that I need to speak to someone.  Usually when I do, they have the answer to something I’ve been seeking.

The best way I can define instinct is it’s the voice inside that is an exact quick-to-the-surface answer, but also something of a feeling.  Like you feel you should talk to this person, or take this action.

Your mind is going to be a more logical voice, and if there is a feeling associated with it, it is likely to be fear based.  Instinct is the right answer at the right time.

What idea is your instinct pointing you toward? Maybe its time to take action in that direction.  Trust your instinct-live in the moment and take it as it comes.

The Freight Train is Coming

You are on the train tracks and the freight train is coming.  You don’t know exactly when, but its on the way, it is only a matter of time.

its only a matter of time

It’s easy to get caught up in the everyday routine of life.  In fact, most people are experiencing life like sleepwalkers.

I’m definitely guilty of taking life for granted…but you know what? There is no guarantee for any time in the future.

What would you do if you only had 6 months to live? Personally, I’d be a lot more adventurous and would get things done with a sense of urgency.  I would jump out of bed ready to savor every delicious bite of life I had left.

Regardless, you are also getting old.  You are losing your sharpness.  You are going to wake up one day and have hair growing out of your ears and a dick that can’t get hard.

So why are you settling for mediocrity now?

Do the things you really want to do.  Never settle.  Never give up.  Go and live while you still can.  Stop taking the day for granted.  Live with a sense of urgency. Take it as it comes.  Live today.

Do it NOW!

Great Expectations

No, this post isn’t about the classic novel by Charles Dickens, but rather about YOU.

Earl Nightingale states in his class audio program Lead the Field that “our outlook on life is like a paintbrush, and with it, we paint our world.”  What is your outlook? Have you ever wondered why some people make millions of dollars per year, and have success after success, and why others go from failure to failure?

People get what they expect out of life.  It starts in your head.  Have you ever realized that you are constantly broadcasting to others around you how to treat you?  Your subtle non-verbal cues and energy are communicating what you expect.  When you walk into a room, do you expect people to be friendly to you, or do you expect them to ignore you or be rude to you?  Your expectation determines everything.

You’ve got to rise above your social conditioning and be present like you were when you were a happy baby.  As ridiculous at it may seem, often times the things holding us back are related to some minor event that happened in childhood.  The good news is: its not real! The socially conditioned constraints in your mind can be overcome.  They are not the same as gravity.

Realize: You have the ability to set the thermostat for your life.  You are not your past.  Should you not be successful or have the courage to do what you want because your dad beat your ass as a child? Should you be fearful of living in sexual abundance because some girl turned you down in middle school?

Establish self fulfilling prophesies that will get you what you want.  Let go of your past and of the social constructs that don’t even exist!

You get what you expect out of life.  Great expectation = great results.

Experiment Conclusions

So while I did have a fun night out, its hard to say how much attraction the pheromones caused.  I went to a cocktail party downtown for about an hour and a half.  The most notable quote from the evening was from the waitress who told me “every woman here is talking about you.”  Alright…definitely a good sign.  However, at the end of the day, I stand by my original hypothesis that it all starts in your head.  If you expect to do better with a ‘magic potion,’ then you will.  Its a self fulfilling prophesy.

In any case, it definitely didn’t hurt anything.  I had several women laughing at my jokes and hugging on me through out the night- but then again that’s how it is every day.  Nothing crazy happened like an orgy.

Do Pheromones Actually Work?

I was recently asked by the guys at www.best-pheromones.com to write an unbiased review on their pheromones for men product.  I have always been intrigued by the idea and wanted to research it in the name of science.

I received their pheromone about 2 days ago via mail.  It was sent from Italy according the postage and return address.  It had ‘best pheromones’ printed on the return label, which isn’t exactly as private as I expected.

(I am currently without a digital camera, so bear with me…)

Inside the package is a letter reminding you to only use a few drops and to let you know it is a new oil based formula.  The pheromone liquid came in a very solid glass container with a roll-top applicator.  On the bottle is a sticker with the printed word “MAN” surrounded by red, illustrated dynamites.  The sticker’s appearance doesn’t really look like it was created in a science lab, but more like marketing.

The liquid has a similar appearance to cooking oil, and smells like ‘dirty olive oil.’  I’m not sure what the ‘dirty’ part of the equation is, but there is a very subtle pungent odor.   I can’t quite put my finger on it, but it’s probably closest to sweat mixed with olive oil.

So you are probably wondering….does it work?  In a perfect world, I would have some friends who are twins who would participate in a blind study where one received pheromone and the other received placebo.  However, since I do not know anyone like that, and I am really damn curious, I am going to note what happens one day with and one day without using the pheromone.

My theory is that most of the successes from using pheromones come from placebo effect.  If you visit their website, you can read their testimonials and clinical studies of their human pheromones.  If you believed completely that it works, then it could boost a man’s confidence, resulting in more success.  Don’t worry females, they also offer pheromones for women.

In the meantime, you can see Brainiacs pheromone experiment here:

Check back for the results of my experiment.  I am going to note how many women strangers approach me, how women acquaintences respond, and any behavior out of the ordinary.