Experiment Conclusions

So while I did have a fun night out, its hard to say how much attraction the pheromones caused.  I went to a cocktail party downtown for about an hour and a half.  The most notable quote from the evening was from the waitress who told me “every woman here is talking about you.”  Alright…definitely a good sign.  However, at the end of the day, I stand by my original hypothesis that it all starts in your head.  If you expect to do better with a ‘magic potion,’ then you will.  Its a self fulfilling prophesy.

In any case, it definitely didn’t hurt anything.  I had several women laughing at my jokes and hugging on me through out the night- but then again that’s how it is every day.  Nothing crazy happened like an orgy.

Do Pheromones Actually Work?

I was recently asked by the guys at www.best-pheromones.com to write an unbiased review on their pheromones for men product.  I have always been intrigued by the idea and wanted to research it in the name of science.

I received their pheromone about 2 days ago via mail.  It was sent from Italy according the postage and return address.  It had ‘best pheromones’ printed on the return label, which isn’t exactly as private as I expected.

(I am currently without a digital camera, so bear with me…)

Inside the package is a letter reminding you to only use a few drops and to let you know it is a new oil based formula.  The pheromone liquid came in a very solid glass container with a roll-top applicator.  On the bottle is a sticker with the printed word “MAN” surrounded by red, illustrated dynamites.  The sticker’s appearance doesn’t really look like it was created in a science lab, but more like marketing.

The liquid has a similar appearance to cooking oil, and smells like ‘dirty olive oil.’  I’m not sure what the ‘dirty’ part of the equation is, but there is a very subtle pungent odor.   I can’t quite put my finger on it, but it’s probably closest to sweat mixed with olive oil.

So you are probably wondering….does it work?  In a perfect world, I would have some friends who are twins who would participate in a blind study where one received pheromone and the other received placebo.  However, since I do not know anyone like that, and I am really damn curious, I am going to note what happens one day with and one day without using the pheromone.

My theory is that most of the successes from using pheromones come from placebo effect.  If you visit their website, you can read their testimonials and clinical studies of their human pheromones.  If you believed completely that it works, then it could boost a man’s confidence, resulting in more success.  Don’t worry females, they also offer pheromones for women.

In the meantime, you can see Brainiacs pheromone experiment here:

Check back for the results of my experiment.  I am going to note how many women strangers approach me, how women acquaintences respond, and any behavior out of the ordinary.

You Are Radically Underestimating Yourself

“If ordinary people realized how ordinary in capability most
millionaires are, there’d be a lot more millionaires – what holds
people back isn’t lack of opportunity or capability, but the
illusory belief that millionaires possess some special abilities
they do not.”

-Dan Kennedy

First things first. Every rich person I know reads Dan Kennedy. If you aspire to be be successful in business, I highly recommend his material.

You know what the real key to business success is? BALLS. Sure you need to have a plan. Sure you need to have some experience in the field, but I can’t count the number of people I meet that would love to start their own business, but say that it is ‘too risky.’

The truth is, having a job is just as risky, if not more risky. You could work at IBM for 30 years, and suddenly be unemployed the next day. Safety and security are vastly overrated. People who cling to their  jobs don’t realize how close to the edge they really are…a strong wind comes and they are easily pushed into an unemployed free fall.

Remember: you are responsible for you. Its not the responsibility of “the company” or the government to put food on your table every week.

Lots of people have great ideas. Lots of people have wonderful skills which they could use to serve their fellow man. The people who are laughing all the way to the bank and living comfortably on the top of the socioeconomic pyramid are the ones who had the balls to make their vision a reality!

You can’t be afraid to be wrong. You can’t fear losing so much that you avoid playing the game! There are going to be times when you strike out several times in a row. It will hurt, but you’ve got to keep swinging. Sometimes storms come, but they always pass eventually.

There will also be times when you are hot and are hitting home runs with confidence and gusto. Its those times you’ve got to keep your eye on the big picture and keep working towards the larger goal. You can’t get too comfortable, because nothing lasts forever.

Its easy to put people who have achieved something you aspire to on a pedestal. I have been guilty of this, trust me, but the more and more successful people I meet the more I realize this: they are just people. They took action. They made a courageous decision and stood by it. They starting being the kind of person necessary to do what they wanted to do.

The only difference between you and the billionaire kid who started Facebook was that he had the balls to start Facebook. You can always find someone who knows the answers along the way. The difficult part for most people is taking the first step. Its having the courage to embark.

You are so close to having everything you could possibly imagine. Have the balls to take the first step and BE who you want to BE. Stop underestimating yourself, because YOU HAVE THE POWER!

“Who you are speaks so loudly, I can’t hear what you are saying”

People are always looking for shortcuts. They want the easy way- and why not? Life is too short to waste.  So when it comes to making money, dating beautiful women, or achieving power most people want techniques and to be told what to do.  I’m here to tell you one obvious truth that is the single most important factor to your success.  Are you ready? It’s not a matter of technique or trick: It’s WHO YOU ARE.

Its tough to be a leader and to enroll people into your reality if you don’t know who you are.  Another way to put this is: who or what you are being.

What are you ‘all about?’ If asked, could you tell someone in one or two precise sentences? You can people watch and ask yourself what word come to mind when you see people walking.  Ask  yourself, “what is this person saying without even speaking?”  You immediately know that guy with gold teeth, sagging pants, and a swagger to his walk is conveying “toughness” or the word “thug” comes to mind.  You see the blond girl with the huge glasses, tiny dog, and expensive purse.  “Paris Hilton clone” or “rich bitch” is who she is being.  I’m not telling you to stereotype, but I do want to increase your awareness of what you are communicating to others non-verbally.

"Who you are speaks so loudly, I can't hear what you are saying"

What about you? What are you conveying to other people? Do you even know?

Your goal is to seek inner harmony.  You must be congruent in your reality.  You want to come from a solid place of inner peace.  Seek to eliminate inner conflict and trim away the layers that are not serving you.

A great way to grow is to challenge your beliefs.  It may be extremely uncomfortable at first, but when you realize that you aren’t your beliefs, you can cut and cull away as necessary.  This is important, because as was mentioned before, in human interaction, the person who believes in their view of the universe more, wins.  That belief system dominates.  So to put it simply, if you have a cloudy reality with inner conflict, you aren’t as powerful as you could be.

So back to determining who you are…a helpful hint is this: most people look externally, and let other people or things define them.  The truth is, you have the power over this, contrary to what most think.  In fact, because you know the power of belief systems, you know that you can influence others opinions of you, simply by believing strongly in yourself!

Most people are followers looking around waiting for someone to tell them what to do, who to be, and what’s “hot.”  You have the power to determine those things for yourself.  Fuck what some commercial says-they just want your money.  What do you think is cool? Thats whats important.  I can’t remember where I read it, but I always liked the quote, “Put a smile on your face first.”

Don’t blindly follow the crowd.  Be who YOU want to be.  Make no apologies and take no prisoner.  You’ll wake up one day to find that you are lighter, happier, and living harmoniously.

Let your Light Shine

This guy sells cell phones.  WHY THE HELL DOES THIS GUY SALE CELL PHONES? It makes no sense right? This is old news, and this guy went on to win’s Britain’s version of “American Idol.”  Once Paul starts singing, his gift becomes pretty obvious.  What I want to bring to your attention is, despite having that sort of talent, this guy was selling cell phones.

Its great he had a day job, and wasn’t panhandling, but couldn’t he at least have worked at the opera house? I bet he would have look forward to going to work everyday.  How many people do you know like this? They are richly blessed in some way, yet they cowardly settle for mediocrity.

Don’t let that be you.  If you have a river of interest or some talent, then its time to let your light shine.  People will be debating the meaning of life forever, but personally, the more I share my light with others the more fulfillment I feel.  If you are feeling fulfilled, then you probably aren’t sitting around wondering whats your purpose.

Speaking of purpose, if you don’t have one, you are like driftwood.  You aren’t really going anywhere.  You are just floating along.

You don’t have to have somebody else’s permission to let your light shine…in fact, waiting for someone to give you permission to pursue your passion is a deadend street.  Your friends and family may tell you play it safe–”get a job selling cell phones and MAYBE one day you’ll get lucky and get discovered.”

You will never get the kind of success you seek if you put in half ass efforts.  Burn the bridge to safety, realize there is no turning back, and go after what you want.  Stop waiting for someone to show up and give you permission to be who you want to be!

If your talent positively impacts a great number of people, then you can expect to be richly rewarded.  Worst case scenario, you will be doing what you love to do.  Don’t just work some shit job because you feel some sort of obligation.

Stop being a pussy, and let your light shine!